Don't Quit

I have been called a go-getter, motivator, inspiration, good listener (I have my moments) and someone who tells it like it is.

I'm not sure how else to be, but I am who I am. I believe we all have moments where we experience all of everything (from the goodest of good to the baddest of bad) - but it is how we deal with these things and how much harm we do along the way that matters. If we continue to carry these negative  things through life, we will continue to do harm to ourselves and others. Not good.

We all will learn and experience love, loss, grief, pain, happiness and joy. How much of each we allow into our beings is up to each of us. Life throw's its curve balls - we still have to deal.

You can generally tell someone who doesn't like themselves very much - they point out all of the people that bother them, offend them or make their lives unliveable. Meanwhile, it is their own miserable existence that keeps them jabbering on about others as a distraction for what ails them.

Distraction means they don't have to look at themselves or deal with their own issues. It's a shame, but avoidance of these folks is best until they figure out how to circumvent the pubic bullying and deal with some stuff.....and even then, harm can be so damaging that reconciliation is futile. I have definitely been this person.

I wasn't always this nice - or this approachable. I have had my moments of down right bitchy as anyone who knows me can attest.....and although life happens, I have kept moving forward and surviving thriving life as it happens. We get better. We grow and hopefully not in ways we shouldn't - but even that happens. If we are lucky, those we have harmed in the past are willing to see us for who we are now, but that doesn't always happen. We have to be flexible and realize all of the aspects of a picture - and not just our one small piece.

When I weighed 266 pounds, I knew in my head nothing would change for me. It never changed. I knew how hard quitting smoking was - so I never tried. I thought that soda made a fair water replacement - so I drank tonnes of it and made myself horribly ill. I made up all of this ridiculous sh** in my head to get what I wanted. I wanted to be fat, lazy and full of phony cheese products, potato chips and tobacco smoke because they were my buddy.

When I felt like crap, these aspects of my life were my 'go to' items. I could get them anytime I wanted and they made me feel good all the time....until I didn't have them anymore......

It took some time and a whole lot of self reminders about what my goals actually were, but it happened. It happens slowly at first - we are searching for proof of effectiveness. We are so used to being 'duped' in the world of wellness that when someone claims something new to them, they immediately dismiss it as a lie. We need to know how to weed out the things that don't work for us and move toward the things that do.

If I had been honest with myself years ago, I could have saved myself a lot of health issues. Instead, I justified drinking in excess of 12 cans of soda a day, stuffing my face with every bad food going all the while growing more and more ill. We can lie to ourselves too.

In my book, The Fat Girl Now 50% Lighter, I explain how I learned to embrace change and grow through being flexible instead of believing everything I was told and defending it without proof. We learn that everything is not what it seems - and we have to remain open minded if we are going to adapt well.

There's nothing like the feeling of having epiphany after epiphany - every day! Joy comes back into life and smiling.....It can't be helped!

 

Embrace life - all it is and all it brings into your world. Some will be amazing - some not so significant and others yet - downright terrifying.....but embrace it. Life is meant to be lived - all of it.
 Always move forward and remain open to new experiences.

Rock your day!