Living in negative-ville only gets us more negativity - and we don't really want that. Often it is only a matter of becoming aware of how we think, so how can we change things and start seeing real life results?
First off - no one owes us a thing. We are where we are because of a sequence of events throughout time and we'll never really track it all back to whom to blame.....so let's just move forward and live a happy life, shall we? Great!
So, gratitude. It's what we are thankful for and I can tell you one thing. Once we focus our awareness on what it is we really want, most (if not all) of the negativity melts away. Did you know that stress and negativity have been weighed? They have weight! I found this fascinating.
The first step in making a change from the negative is awareness. Focus on what you say and how you say it. Is it biting? Did it sound brash? Are the words dramatic and hurtful? If our intention is positive, no worries. The words will be too.
If negativity is creeping in, get motivated! Find your passion and get going. It doesn't matter what it is - we all have different passions. Discover what you're about by getting involved in things that keep you busy. Television is not going to be that thing. Sorry. Not having had a subscription to TV for over 5 years now, I can assure you it isn't painful. It is freeing!
Another great tip to escape the negative aspects of your life - cut yourself some slack. We're always harshest on ourselves and this is really unfair. We are doing the best we can with what we have where we are, and that's what we're doing. We can't compare ourselves to anyone else, we just keep moving forward ourselves. If we aren't, awareness will remind us that we may have a little work to do.
Everything starts or stops with a thought. How many times have we stopped ourselves or abandoned opportunity because we talk ourselves out of something? Once we are aware of this too, we can begin to adjust the sails. Remember: there is no such thing as failure - but there is success in the making!
One way of ensuring that we think positive? Avoid revisiting the feelings of the past. Find joy in the memories you cherish, but let go of the ones that made you feel like garbage. Why? Well, if they hurt, they aren't good for us. Secondly, we can never go back there and change it. Third, it left us with a feeling, a negative reminder that something negative was in our life at one time. This doesn't mean it remains there today. We release the past by reminding ourselves of these things and continually being aware that we deserve to move forward.
Through all of these steps mentioned, we still have to be willing to accept change throughout the process. Negativity cannot grow without input - neither can love. We choose one or the other.
My last tidbit of advice would be this: grab onto your life however you can and really get involved. It is so motivating to know the things you are capable of and then shoot far beyond that to see what happens. I have yet to be disappointed!
We're all going to experience loss, pain, hurt and defeat - but attitude is everything. Embrace every moment, good or bad - accept that things happen and dealing with 'stuff' no doubt takes time. Eventually, the negativity will flow right through, leaving only the ability to stand up in our own lives and handle whatever comes our way.
No one wants to choose to be negative - it doesn't 'feel' good. Making changes in our own lives takes work, but it is far easier than dealing with the remaining feelings from always being negative.
Life awaits - get livin' it!
This is an excellent reminder as to what our lives can be like if we constantly let people and / or circumstances to take over our lives. Having a positive outlook does make you feel free and if we remember that stress and negativity helps you pack on the unwanted pounds, it's easier to remember there is good in your life, no matter what the circumstances may be.
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